Just Giving Page

Thank you 🙏 to everyone who has donated so far, as some of you may know our Dad had diabetes.  Dad tried his hardest to control it, but a big lover of food, this was something dad found hard and sometimes old habits are hard to break. In time dad made better choices and learnt how to live with the disease.  Diabetes doesn’t just impact your sugar levels, it’s slows down your body to heal itself, cuts, bruises and even the common cold took Dad at least 4 times longer to get better than if he wasn’t a diabetic.  This was one of dads irritations with having to live with this disease.

3 years ago, Dad had a nasty accident whilst on holiday, spending 2 months in ICU, in Thailand, then making the long, awful journey home  via air ambulance, the doctors informed my Mum, that dad would never walk again. Mums dedication and determination never allowed this to happen. Mum slept on the sofa in the living room for 18 months as dad was provided a hospital bed. Mum never left dads side! mum would 2/3 times a day would massage Dad, this helped with circulation, eventually Mum asked Dad to stand up using his Zimmer frame, he did just that! That was the beginning!

Every day Mum would make Dad do this, then he took his first few steps, wobbly but he took them! Mum said to Dad ‘I told you, we will do this!’.

Dad was soon walking with a walking stick and eventually on his own!

Dad was able to drive and started going back to the one place he loved, London auto electric, his workshop in Eastham. This business of our Dads was something he knew and loved for the last 44 years. And Mum was not going to allow him to give this up, if she had, Dad would have got worse and probable depressed, but mum gave us our dad back, the softly spoken gentleman who loves doing something new every day. 

18 months ago, Diabetes eventually took hold of Dads kidneys, with endless hospital’s appointments and mum cooking special meals regardless of what shift she was on at work. The regular massages kept dad off of dialysis as long as possible. Then the inevitable happened, dad needed to go on dialysis. 

A simple ‘day surgery’ procedure changed all of our lives.

The surgeon who performed the PD catheter, raptured a blood vessel.  This surgeon actually said sorry to our Mum, for he knew he had made mistake and left dad to bleed internally. A second operation within 12hours, another surgeon tried to fix the blood vessel, he discovered that not only are the blood vessels raptured but also the intestines. Unfortunately, Dad was not getting better, a 3rd operation by a 3rd surgeon meant 3 lots of anaesthetics’ in less than 48 hours.  Dad came out of that surgery very very poorly. The doctor’s advice was for us to expect the worse. Being bought up with a ‘glass half full’ attitude, his positive thinking rubbed on us and we would never give up!

Eventually Dad just had enough and finally went to sleep on 26th February, leaving behind a broken family.

We credited our Dads Just Giving Page with a very generous amount of £560 taking the total to over £3300. This money was generously donated by our friends and family who came home to pay their respects to our dad. We collected the money via a ‘diabetes bucket’ which we had at home, and then took to the crematorium and gurdwara. 

We are grateful and humbly thank you all for your generosity and the priceless continuous support that you give us.  A social media message or  a phone call during this hard time was so appreciated.

Our Mum, Jaswinder Sagoo, is overwhelmed with all the prayers and kind thoughts she has received.

Mum also wanted to express her gratitude for the unconditional love and support you have all given her especially during this ‘unknown’ – the new norm ‘times we are facing.

We understand how difficult this pandemic has been.

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